Amie Klempnauer Miller is a mom who had hoped to get pregnant, but didn’t. After two years of trying and no conception, partner Jane decides she’ll give it a go. She gets pregnant after the first round of insemination. “That’s my family,”….Jane quips. “Wave a little sperm at us and we get knocked up.” Thus begins their journey toward motherhood. After eighteen years of partnership, their duo is on the path to becoming a trio.
Miller becomes stay-at-home Mama and Jane becomes Mommy, the primary breadwinner. Miller recounts in great detail the ups and downs, comic moments and exhaustion, plus the challenges to their relationship involved in becoming pregnant as a lesbian couple and raising their daughter, Hannah. We journey with them, up to Hannah’s toddlerhood. She shares the ways in which their family is just like any other family, the ways in which she is just like any other mother--and the ways in which she is not, as a nonbiological lesbian mom.
Miller’s memoir, She Looks just like You: A Memoir of (Nonbiological Lesbian) Motherhood, is funny, gritty and intriguing. I didn’t want it to end.